When is enough enough?

If you have every had the feeling you are not up to the challenge, up to the task, or up to the standard, you are not alone.  So many people I talk with admit to bouts of imposter syndrome (see my blogpost Three Ways to Overcome Imposter Syndrome).

And, by the way, you might be interested to know that best-selling author Seth Godin describes imposter syndrome as part of the creative process, as well as a sign that you are a well-adjusted human being.  Feel better?

So, with that new perspective, let’s take another look at some of those feelings associated with imposter syndrome. At their core, these doubts are feelings of “not enough.” Not enough talent to compete at the next level, not enough strength to endure a challenge you’re facing, not enough experience to go for that promotion you want. Just not enough.

I challenge you to ask yourself what is enough? Can you describe it, with clarity? How will you know when you get there? What, exactly, do you need to be enough or to have enough? If you don’t know the answer to these questions, you may never get there.

I’m not suggesting that you should not strive for improvement; I do believe there is always another level of performance or excellence and reaching for that contributes to growth as a human being.  At the same time, it’s important to pause now and then, and give yourself credit to what you have achieved and how far you’ve come.

What I’ve learned for sure is that you are stronger than you think. You have overcome a lot of challenges in life that would have caused other people to quit. And you have many things and people around you to be grateful for.  Take time to appreciate that.

When I think about gaining clarity on what is enough, I think about the simple things.  Waking up each day.  Breathing, health and well- being, family, friends, a roof overhead, food to eat, nature, etc. The things and people we tend to take for granted. Things that we should celebrate as often as possible.

And then, there’s a flip side of enough.  If enough is a ceiling, where is the floor?  What is it you won’t settle for? Where do you draw the line? What is unacceptable?

When you gain clarity on the ceiling and the floor, you can create more peace for yourself, and you can project more peace toward others.  Think of it as the contentment and comfort zone that continues to expand as you grow and learn.

I knew I was not finished thinking about – and writing about – the imposter syndrome after that blogpost.  With the responses, comments, and questions I got, and with more time to reflect, I realized I had more to say. I always appreciate your feedback!